Type the words ‘life purpose’ into google and you’ll find the whole of page 1 search results come back with a multitude of ways to find and discover your life’s purpose.
Most of them seemingly advocating that you have one purpose in life and that you will be ‘unable to thrive’ unless you find it. (See footnote)
Well that’s me buggered then. 😞
I’ve been trying to figure out what my life’s purpose is since I was a teen and at 46 I still have no idea.
I do know what my purpose is for the next few years right now.
I did know what my purpose was at age 34 when I had my daughter.
I knew what my purpose was age 17 studying for my A Levels.
Why should we only have one life’s purpose? Surely we have multiple purposes at different times in our life.
What’s Important to You Now?
I was listening to James Altucher not long ago who said why not live by themes rather than a single purpose as our priorities change over time.
Well he’s bang on.
There are some who come out of the womb knowing what they want to do and who they want to be, but there are many (probably the majority) who simply don’t who then spend years and years trying to define what they’re on this planet for!
A huge theme of my writings at this stage in my life is to give yourself a break and take the pressure off a bit.
There are no rules as to how you live your life except the rules you make for yourself.
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You do not need to find your ‘life’s purpose’. Just know what’s meaningful and important to you right now and focus on that.
– In my teens I needed to pass exams and get boys to fancy me.
– In my 20’s I needed to feed myself, pay the rent, have enough money to party and get men to fancy me.
– In my 30’s I needed to feed myself and another, pay the mortgage and learn to become more responsible.
– In my 40’s I wanted to build businesses and achieve financial freedom.
– As I head into my 50’s I want to teach my daughter to be a strong and determined young woman, look after my health, help as many people as I can suck the juice out of life and change the world! (and if boys fancy me, that’s a bonus!)
Who knows what will come after that.
If you know exactly what it is you want to do, have always known and have always worked towards that single goal then fantastic!
But if you seem to be reinventing yourself every few years and changing direction to suit your current circumstance or world views then that’s also fantastic!
There is no right or wrong here, no shoulds or musts, only what you know in your heart.
So how do I know what’s right for me, right now Jo?
Not sure how to discover your purpose for right now, let alone your life?
Well you know those moments when your subconscious kicks in and you find yourself day dreaming?
What are you dreaming about? – if only I was 20 pounds lighter, if only I could write that book about xxxx, if only I could start a travel blog, if only I could build a successful business online!
You will know deep in your heart what your priorities are right now, so take the pressure off, stop ‘searching’ for who you think you should be and just start doing.
Action creates motivation, rarely the other way around.
Hope this helps!
Please feel free to ask me questions in the comments below!
P.S. Footnote – while looking at the page 1 results I did read a super good blog post about finding your purpose by Mark Manson author of “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k” – great book by the way. Read the post here.