Welcome to Episode 53 of Make it Happen Monday!
Published every Monday, this is my weekly video series helping you to blast through any barriers holding up your success in life and business and giving you weekly tips and inspiration to move forward to achieve your goals and dreams.
What’s something you’re really great at? Something that you do so well that other people compliment you and ask to learn from you?
Maybe you’re an excellent dancer or you’re a whiz at math.
Maybe you run marathons or you’re the go-to person in your niche for running webinar trainings.
And maybe you make a delicious raspberry pie.
Whatever it is, there was a time when you were first getting started.
There was a time when you were actually not good at that skill at all.
Just think: there was a time when Tiger Woods was terrible at golf!
When you are first starting something new, it can be challenging. You have to work very hard to become skilled. And it can be tempting to give up.
But it’s only when we take on these challenges and move outside of our comfort zones that we learn to grow.
In this week’s Make It Happen Monday, I’m talking about why moving out of your comfort zone is a good thing.
Welcome to a rather chilly Make it Happen Monday!
I’m recording this video from the beautiful town of Avoriaz, a ski town on the French-Swiss border, about an hour or so away from Geneva.
It is absolutely beautiful! Just look at the sun coming down on the mountains. You can also see people heading out with their skis, ready to head up to the mountains and get a huge adrenaline rush!
My first time skiing
I’m a complete first timer. Learning to ski has been very, very scary. I absolutely hated the first day!
I could not get my head around skiing. It’s freezing cold. You’re hurtling down these mountains……well actually, hills on the nursery slope.
All I kept thinking was, “What on Earth are these people doing out here in the freezing cold, frightening themselves to death?!”
On the second morning, I have to admit, I ended up in tears. From utter fear!
I lost control of my skis and went hurtling down the side of this hill. I was completely out of control, and I did not know how to stop!
Luckily, I was OK, but all I kept thinking after that was, “What on Earth am I doing here?!” I really was almost ready to give up.
Moving out of my comfort zone
I persevered with the skiing. I didn’t enjoy it, but I did not give up. I was well and truly out of my comfort zone, but I did not want that feeling to stop me.
Somehow, after that terrible second day, I started to get the hang of it. I started to figure out how to control my skis.
All of a sudden, skiing became incredibly enjoyable! I started to see why all of these people were out here, freezing themselves and scaring themselves to death!
Because, it is immense fun! I have had the best time on this trip. A huge highlight was sitting in a 30 plus degree Jacuzzi while it was snowing heavily all around. I was even waving to all the people trussed up in their ski gear on the ski lifts from the Jacuzzi!
Why moving out of your comfort zone is so important?
It might sound twee, but sometimes we just need to move out of our comfort zone. Now, I’m not suggesting you hurtle yourself down the side of a mountain!
But sometimes, in our businesses and in our lives, we know what we need to do. And we start something. But then……. we may hate it!
It’s something new, it’s unfamiliar, and we don’t understand it.
At this point, it is easy to think, “I don’t like it, therefore why am I doing it?”
Look, I would never tell you to do anything that you really don’t like. Recently, I spoke about how you should play to your strengths.
If you like writing, it just makes more sense for you to write blog posts, then it does to make videos, or hold webinars.
If you hate writing, but making videos or podcasts resonates, it just makes sense to do that, rather than force yourself to write when it’s not something you enjoy.
The problem arises when we haven’t really given something a good shot!
Look at me with skiing. Just a few short days ago, I hated it. I was in tears over it!
Now, I absolutely love it!
Give something a shot. The reason you may not like something could simply be because it’s unfamiliar and taking you out of your comfort zone.
Your challenge this week, should you choose to accept it, is…
Move out of our comfort zone
• Figure out what is it you need to do right now
It doesn’t matter whether it’s something that will greatly improve your business or your life.
• Go out there and do it
It will be uncomfortable, I guarantee it! This moment of discomfort, this is a moment of learning.
When we don’t really understand what we are doing, you are bound to hear that little voice in your head saying, “I hate this, I can’t do it, I’m going to pack it up, it’s too hard!
• Ignore that voice!
Go and do it any way. Give it a fair shot. You need to give yourself the chance, the opportunity, to see whether it actually is for you or not.
Once you understand how to do it, THEN you can decide whether you really hate it or not.
After these last few days of skiing (and now that I can actually control my skis), I may have decided, “You know what? This isn’t for me. I don’t like the speed. I don’t like the cold”
And that would have been fair enough. I gave it a shot, I actually learnt how to ski (at least at a beginner’s level) and I didn’t like it.
Thankfully, I loved it!
Don’t give up too early. Only make a decision on whether you actually like or hate something AFTER you’ve given things a real fair crack of the whip.
I’m heading back to Phuket today. We have one more day of skiing. I’m going from snowy topped mountains to green, beautiful, 30 plus degree islands in a beautiful sea!
But most importantly, I’m heading back with a new lease of life. Because I’ve tried something new, I moved out of my comfort zone, and I feel so confident!
That’s what this exercise does for you. It gives you so much confidence! When you try something new, and you move beyond what you are used to, you gain lots of confidence, be it making a video, writing a blog, or hurtling down the side of a mountain!
I’m now off to hurtle down the same mountain that I was so scared of on the first day!
What else can I do?
Tell me in the comments below, what do you really want to do that feels daunting right now? Are you now going to do it anyway?
Also, go and do something you’ve never tried before and come back and tell me in the comments! What happened? How did it FEEL?
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Have an amazing week, live life on purpose and Make It Happen!