You Are Not Alone

Imposter syndrome
People will laugh at me
Who the hell I am to do this?
I don’t have what it takes
I won’t be able to follow through
I haven’t got enough money
I’m not good enough
No technological skills
I will fail publicly
Vulnerability
I will be judged
I won’t have any money
I’ll be lonely
Are my dreams even realistic?
How can I compete?
I haven’t got anything unique to say
How will I balance everything?
I will screw up for my clients
I’ll let my family down
I won’t succeed and will be stuck
Hearing crickets!
Being seen
Not being there for my kids
Insignificance
Why will this time be any different from all my past failures?
Change
I don’t know enough
I will quit
Rejection

These are all the answers from fellow budding entrepreneurs in a group I am part of when asked the question;

‘When starting and building your business, what are you most afraid of’.

Whatever your fear, you are not alone! 😀

Is Your Biggest Weakness Holding You Back?

I’m in the middle of Marie Forleo’s B-School at the moment and I have to say it really is an incredible program.

I signed up because even though I’m excited about ‘Your Lifestyle Business’, I still felt like I hadn’t quite defined exactly where I wanted to take it.

I knew I wanted to get back to educating and making videos etc, but I also knew I didn’t want to sell online courses anymore.

Plus there are FB specialists, Instagram specialists, Online Course specialists etc out there crushing it and I’ve been having trouble deciding where YLB really fits in and where I can add the greatest value.

More on this in another post as the training has been invaluable and I’m super excited, but for now, one of the exercises was to go out and ask family and friends, ‘What are My Top 3 Best or Strongest Qualities’.

I haven’t finished asking people yet, but when I asked my hubby to be and he gave me some great feedback I also asked him, ‘what’s my biggest weakness? What one think do you think could really hold me back from being who I want to be?’

I was expecting – ‘you’re too optimistic, you want everything yesterday, you set too many goals, you’re a great starter but your follow through is sometimes lacking’ etc.

But he simply said ‘self doubt’.

Self doubt! I exclaimed!!!

I’m one of the most confident people I know!!!

With that he smiled and walked away.

Later that day as I was writing out my new plan for YLB and all the exciting ideas I had, I could feel my enthusiasm start to wane and some familiar thoughts popped into my mind.

‘I don’t really know enough yet about this side of the business’
‘I haven’t had experience with every element yet’
‘It’s more of a mans world, will I have the skills to do it?’
‘What if I’m trying to take on too much’

Yadayadayadayadayada!

I suddenly stopped short and thought! Oh Wow! There’s the self doubt he was talking about!

I wonder how many projects I’ve talked myself out of because I’ve been asking the wrong questions in my mind??

Are you aware of your biggest weakness? Do you know what it is that’s holding you back?

If you’re not sure it’s time to ask someone who knows you well and is willing to lovingly tell you.

Even if you think you know (I thought I knew mine), ask anyway as the answer might surprise you and then next time it rears it’s ugly head you’ll recognize it and be able to tackle it. 😀

Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day – Make It Happen Monday Episode 100

“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” Bill Gates

I am the first one to admit I want everything to happen ‘yesterday’!

But that’s just not how it works is it.

Sometimes it could take years for us to reap what we sow.

But if we sow long enough and hard enough the benefits can be astounding.

Todays episode was recorded in a swimming pool at the top of a hotel called the Mansion Grand in Agra.

If you look carefully you can see the Taj Mahal behind me!

I hope it helps!

Watch Episode 100 Here

Please let me know in the comments below if you have any questions. I’m here to help!

Also, please share with your friends if you think this Make It Happen Monday episode has been useful and of course have an amazing week, live life on purpose and Make It Happen.

Thanks for watching!

It’s Ok Not to be an Entrepreneur

I witnessed a fabulous argument unfold on facebook this week.

Gary Vee had posted a video with his definition of a ‘true entrepreneur’.

‘You’re not a true entrepreneur’ he said ‘unless you can’t breathe doing anything else’.

‘If you have ever worked for someone else and weren’t out there involved in entrepreneurial activities from a very young age upwards, you’re not a true entrepreneur’, was the rough summary of what he was saying.

His opinion.

The argument that followed was of course those for and against.

Those who agreed with him and those who have worked for others and have become an entrepreneur later in life or are still working to make ends meet but growing a business on the side.

I totally got distracted for a good 20 minutes actually in the comments as they were impassioned and contentious but many were well thought out and intelligent points of view.

My argument however is, who cares!

Who cares whether you’re a ‘true entrepreneur ’in Gary’s opinion or a part time entrepreneur or even an entrepreneur at all!?

I think I know where he’s coming from. He’s very passionate about encouraging youngsters particularly men, lured by venture capital, gold watches, Ferraris and hot women away from this fake dream of what entrepreneurship is all about and talk instead about how hard it is. And all power to his message.

But for those of us who are past all that and simply trying to build a lifestyle business preferably from our passion which gives us the freedom to work from anywhere doing what we love, do not worry about labels.

What you call yourself is irrelevant and unimportant.

What’s crucial is that you are happy, that you’re enjoying the journey, that you’re doing something that you love and that in doing what you love you somehow serve others and have an impact on the world.

All power to you my friend for sticking your neck out and chasing happiness & fulfillment rather than allowing stasis to set in.

Get out there and achieve greatness today! 🙂

Energy is Everything!

Tony Robbins says “Repetition is the Mother of Skill”

Jo Barnes says “Energy is the Mother of Productivity!”

I have had a terrible day today.

Coming down off my big trip no doubt, I couldn’t sleep last night and was up listening to podcasts and reading from around 2am until 5am.

My lovely hubby to be let me sleep in from 5 – 9 and when I woke I felt weary but ready for action.

I jumped on my bike (only 1 week left until Ride 4 Kids) and cycled for 90 minutes while – she ashamedly admits – I did not watch productive videos on growing your social media following or improving sales funnels.

I watched 2 episodes of Outlander! I have to say it certainly made the stationary indoor cycling much easier and as I haven’t been on the bike for almost 6 weeks while I’ve been traveling and I just needed to get some time on the saddle!

The rest of the day has kind of gone by in a haze of tiredness.

The cycling coupled with a poor nights sleep, add in a carb heavy lunch and it was sayonara baby.

My to do list went by the wayside and I had an altogether very unproductive day. 😟

Energy is everything.

Without energy you will not function at your best.

Even the smallest little bumps in the road will feel like Mount Everest and your primal brain will talk your more action taking pre-frontal cortex out of everything positive you want to do.

We must do everything we can today to ensure we have maximum energy tomorrow.

Drink plenty of water, eat nutritious foods, exercise enough but not too much and ensure we get enough sleep! (Note to self there).

And if you are someone who struggles with sleep deprivation I have heard that ‘The Sleep Revolution’ by Arianna Huffington is a good read although I have not read myself, so don’t take my word for it.

I’m off to bed.

Night! 😴